I often hear the term “inclusive democracy,” and have wondered what UUs meant by that term. I recently heard a UU minister define it. Whether it was his personal definition or a standard UU definition, he said that inclusive democracy means an election is not treated as “winner take all,” but the winner takes into consideration and incorporates many of the ideas and concerns of the losing party.
With the division and strife that this bylaws rewrite has created both nationally and at many congregations, I see such a “inclusive democracy” approach as the only hope.
I agree with many of the concerns and aims of the UUA leadership and activists. I support UU and congregations working towards attracting racial and ethnic minorities, and people of different cultures. My partner, who is an Iranian immigrant, has commented on how few racial minorities there are at my congregation. I also agree that, for its future health and survival, it has to work to attract a younger generation. As with other churches, UU “aging out” is a real concern. I also value that UU congregations work to be welcoming of LGBT folks.
Not only am I Sephardic Jewish, with my Sephardic ancestors coming from Turkey, Egypt and Iraq, but I am autistic and bipolar. Thus, I appreciate how people of different cultures can be frustrated by a UU congregation’s dominant culture. I’ve commented that being autistic often is like “being from a different culture,” and I believe I’m one of only three Jews at my congregation, and undoubtedly the only one that is Sephardic (There are only 200,000 to 300,000 Sephardic Jews in the United States, as opposed to 6 million Ashkenazim. Even at the synagogue I attend, I’m in a small minority, with Sephardic Jews having a different culture, history, food and native language than the majority Ashkenazim). Further, I’m a cognitive and neuroscientist, and some of my work is in neurodiversity and working on how to make communities and organizations more welcoming and understanding of people with mental disorders. How to make organizations, such as churches, more welcoming of people who are different is a very part of my work.
In short, I support many of the UU leadership’s and activists’ aims but disagree with the approach on how it is being done and don’t believe it will be effective.
I believe that a way to make UU and congregations more welcoming of different peoples and cultures is to welcome viewpoint diversity and expression not stifle it. By definition, multiculturalism involves people who have different ways of seeing and doing things.
A question I often ask is: Do UUs, especially white UUs, really listen to minorities, or do they only listen to minorities who agree with them? Confirmation bias is an innate human tendency, and if UUs “center” and platform only minorities who agree with them and share their political positions, I don’t consider that listening to minorities.And if they aren’t really listening to minorities with open and curious minds, how do they expect to attract outside racial and ethnic minorities to their congregations or think their congregations will be welcoming of them? I have written on this issue, such as in the below post:
The Consequences of Ignorance and False Assumptions in Activism (substack.com)
Further, as someone who is both autistic and bipolar, and who researches and writes about neurodiversity, I recommend reading the following post:
Intellectual Freedoms Support Diversity: A Neurodiversity Perspective
Below is a quote from the above-linked post:
Neurodiversity is about viewpoint diversity
A key to supporting people with mental disorders is to know that there is a great diversity of views within every demographic. As with every race, ethnicity, sex, and nationality, people with mental disorders have a wide range of political and social views, philosophies, aesthetic tastes, and personalities. There is no one view on issues of pathology, medical treatments, and the neurodiversity movement. A saying about the autistic is, “If you’ve met one autistic person you’ve met one autistic person.”
While well-intentioned, modern social justice activism that is illiberal, dogmatic, and expects conformity in ideology, politics, and language oppresses the very minorities they are trying to support. Enforced groupthink is the antithesis of supporting diversity and multiculturalism.
Extremist social justice movements that falsely claim they represent the “one, authentic voice” of a demographic and shout down all dissent create misperceptions about minority groups. Not only does such toxic extremism not represent the views of most minorities, but it hurts the cause.
A church, organization, or community where people who express different viewpoints, including dissent, are ad hominem attacked, called names, and ostracized, or where there is only one accepted and acceptable perspective, will not be a healthy or welcoming place for neuroatypical people. It also will not be a healthy or welcoming place for most members from any minority demographic.