Hi Kara:
Thanks for your sharing. I agree with what I think you mean (if I might pick different words) in the first two paragraphs (starting with when and remember.)
However in my previous comment I had meant hateful speech/racism in UU spaces/inside our communities and my not wishing to ‘covenant to listen’.
It’s possible I just am not understanding your third paragraph. My comment/reply to it is that I do not need to work at growing my tolerance or capacity for listening to racist speech for example, in the same way I do not wish to covenant to listen to it either. My lived experience as a BIPOC UU is hearing and reading and experiencing racism inside our communities and despite that I’m still here and still a UU. For example I experienced racism at a UUA facilitated meeting that was supposed to be welcoming our previous minister, I called it out and left the meeting.